Sunday, January 18, 2009

Better Together Week Three: Belonging Together

We are called to be not just believers, but belongers.


As the Apostle Paul said in Romans 12:5, "We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other."


But what does that look like in practice?

A close look at 1 Corinthians 13:7 gives us some clues...


Love always PROTECTS.


The word for protects here literally translates "to cover with silence."

Sounds to me like the church in Corinth had some trouble with loose lips - gossip. If you've lived long at all, you've likely been hurt by gossip, and you've probably hurt somebody by gossiping.

Proverbs 11:13 says: "Gossips betray a confidence, but the trustworthy keep a secret."

What is gossip?


Gossip happens when talking about a problem with someone who isn’t a part of the problem or part of the solution.

Gossip is on par with sexual immorality and murder.


Gossip is probably more responsible for tearing families, friendships, and churches apart than any other thing.

Why is this a big deal for a church? Community is built on confidentiality. Without feeling confident that you're stuff will be protected, you won't open up. When you don't open up, you're still alone, even if you're surrounded by others.

What to do... A friend stops gossip in its tracks when he hears it. When you pass on stolen goods, you’re an accessory to a crime. When you pass along gossip, or don’t do anything about it when it comes your way, you are an accessory to the crime of gossip.


Love always BELIEVES.

We're called to believe in each other. We need to trust people until they prove you wrong. We need to start everybody with a clean slate.

We're also called to believe for each other (see Mark 2:1-12).

Love always HOPES.

Rick Warren looks at hope as an acronym: HOLDING ON PRAYING EXPECTANTLY

Hope thinks the best of a person - a real friend will let you share your victories without judging.
So, be enthusiastic about other people’s accomplishments. Be a cheerleader, because everybody is discouraged.

Love always PERSEVERES

Love walks in when everyone else is walking out. Love makes time. Love can be counted on in the good times and the hard times. Love is tough enough to stay when you get your feelings hurt.

Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.
Proverbs 17:17.

Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.
Proverbs 18:24

Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.
Jesus, from John 13:34-35
Be good friends who love deeply; practice playing second fiddle.
Romans 12:10

This week’s challenge: Invite someone into the CrossWalk community. Help them find love, encouragement, hope, strength, direction, peace.

Sunday, January 11, 2009

Better Together Session Two: Reaching Out Together

Last week we looked at the most important concept for this entire series, and actually, the most important factor in our faith and life: love. Love is the means and the end. If we miss this one, we’ve essentially missed the whole thing.

This week, we want to think about what it means to show love, as a group, to the community around us. Chech out Mark 6:34-44.

Jesus had been teaching to 5,000 men (plus women and children), and it was nearing dinnertime. Jesus’ disciples encouraged him to send them to nearby villages and towns to get some food. Jesus had a different idea. He told the disciples to feed them themselves.

The disciples immediately reacted negatively: there are too many – we don’t have enough money – we can’t.

Jesus thought otherwise, and kept pressing.

“How much food do we have?” he asked.

“Five small loaves of bread, and two dried and salted fish,” they replied.

Jesus had the people sit in groups. He then took the bread and fish, thanked God for it, broke it in preparation for serving, and then gave it to those who were gathered in groups of 50 and 100.
At the end of the day, everybody was well fed, and twelve basketfuls of leftovers were gathered.
Sometimes when we see big need around us, we simply tell ourselves (and God) that we don’t have enough to do anything about it. We need to pay attention to this story. Because we are Jesus’ disciples, and Jesus has made it clear in his teaching and life that we are to address the needs we see around us.

Recognize the need. Do we know the need around us? The disciples were fully aware of the most pressing need in their context – are we aware? What do you see in our community that needs to be addressed?

Take inventory. Do we know what we have? The disciples knew what they had – not much – but they at least knew what they were working with. What resources do we have on us to meet the needs around us? What skills do you have? What kind of time and energy and other resources could you devote to meeting a need?

Get organized. Have we put any thought into minimizing the chaos through organization? Jesus avoided a hungry mob-scene by having them sit in manageable-sized groups. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you tackle a big problem? One step at a time.

Measure the need. Sometimes we rush ahead to do good things without first finding out what exactly is needed to address a problem. Our eagerness to do good sometimes causes us to inadvertently waste time, energy, and resources because we later discover that what we offer is already being done somewhere else by someone else. All of this is to suggest that as you consider a need in our community, some attention must be given to research, so that you do what’s really needed, not just what you think you want to do.

Prepare your heart. Jesus broke the bread. To be used, it had to be broken. Sometimes we are willing to give our lives to Christ, but not when he actually “breaks” us for use. But without our willingness to be broken, God cannot use us, and we cannot be used. Whose are you?
Be available. Have we given what we have to meet the need? The disciples entrusted their food to Jesus – their sustenance. Have you entrusted what you have to God. Jesus gave thanks to God for what they had. Are you aware that everything you have is God’s? When we “bless the food” we’re actually blessing God, not the food. We are saying thanks for the fact that we have food, and we are saying thanks to the God who ultimately made it possible. How is your perspective similar or different? Jesus gave it away. Will we allow ourselves to be broken and given by God to love the community around us?

The miracle that ensued has been debated by scholars. Some believe that the miracle was that God multiplied the loaves and fishes supernaturally – every time they took out some bread, more kept showing up – a manna from heaven kind of thing. Similar miracles took place before Jesus, and have taken place since. Sometimes, God does some pretty crazy stuff, and he still does. But we’ll never be in on it unless we’re willing to be used by God to love the community around us.

Some believe that the miracle was supernatural in another sense. In this view, it is believed that people had food all along, but weren’t willing to share it with everyone else. When they saw the disciples and Jesus’ willingness to give everything they had away, it moved them to give as well – miraculous. This kind of thing still happens today, too, when one group’s sacrifice inspires more people to do the same – eventually needs get met. But we won’t see that kind of Kingdom in-breaking unless we, as Jesus followers, take the first step and love our community as a community.

One day during rush hour in a busy subway station in Washington, D.C., a man began playing a violin for about 45 minutes. He had his case open if anybody wanted to make a donation.

Out of the thousands of people who rushed by him, only a few stopped to listen, and those only for a moment. Some children wanted to stay and listen, but their parents just didn’t have time. A woman tossed a dollar in as she raced to her train. At the end of 45 minutes, the man packed up his violin, and put the 35 dollars he earned in his pocket.

The next evening, that same man played in Boston. He played some of the same songs he masterfully performed the night before. But this time, instead of a subway station, he played to a sold out crowd to an audience that paid an average of $100 per ticket. This man who played was Joshua Bell.

The Washington Post solicited Joshua Bell to conduct an experiment about our capacity to recognize beauty. Apparently, most of the people in that subway station failed to recognize the beauty in their midst, because they were too busy to notice.

The needs around us are beautiful opportunities. Beautiful children of God may be in desperate need right under our noses – are we present enough to see it?The chance to get in on a beautiful miracle of God is waiting for you to stop, to listen, to see, and to experience. Will you slow down long enough to embrace the beauty in your midst?

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Better Together Session One: What Matters Most

This teaching kicks off a series that will explore the role that community plays in our faith experience. I am borrowing much material from 40Days of Community, a follow-up series from Rick Warren's 40 Days of Purpose.

Today we look at the most critical component of our faith - what matters most. One word sums up everything we should strive for: love.

Jesus said, "Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples." (Jn 13:35 NLT). The greatest commandment as well as the runner up are both focused on love. And, if you really boil it down, the Golden Rule could be answered with "love" on every occasion.

Why did Jesus even come to the world? For God so LOVED the world...

How do you define the word love?

The Apostle Paul gives great insight for us regarding love in one of his letters to the church at Corinth. The church was struggling with a wide range of issues, including pride and one-up-manship. The community was weak - they needed to be reminded that God wants everybody on board, and that everybody has a critical role to play that is connected in some way to everyone else's ability to serve and experience what God has for them.

After Paul gives them a brilliant illustration how we all fit together as one body, he spends an entire chapter covering what they really need to hear. In short, if we lack love, we lack everything.

Take a minute and read 1 Corinthians 13.

In this chapter, Paul makes five radical statements about love....

If I don't live a life of love, nothing I say will matter. Ever have some know-it-all try to give you some advice? How excited were you to accept it? Probably not too thrilled, because these types of folk generally are more interested in hearing themselves pontificate more than your well-being.

If I don't live a life of love, nothing I know will matter. We live in a society that loves to be informed on any number of concerns. The self-help section of the bookstore is full of information. Yet knowing and actually doing are to very different things. Like a lung-cancer specialist who smokes a pack a day, so is a well-read Christian who has not yet learned how to love. They both know there stuff, but there is a big link missing.

If I don't live a life of love, nothing I believe will matter. This may startle some of you who are under the impression that what you believe is the most important thing, and that believing in Jesus is especially critical. It certainly is important, but without love, it doesn't make much difference at ll. Consider this: the Bible gives accounts of Satan and demons having strong belief in Jesus, yet they are considered to be God's enemies.

If I don't live a life of love, nothing I give will matter. Why? Because giving isn't always motivated by love. My guess is that there was at least one gift or card that you gave or sent this Christmas that you did out of a different motivation than love. Obligation. Reciprocity. Kissing up to the boss. Any witnesses out there? There is a huge difference when we give and get if love is the force behind the gift.

If I don't live a life of love, nothing I accomplish will matter. A hundred years from now, nobody will know or care what your title was, how much you got paid, or what kind of camel you drive. But I've laid enough people to rest to assure you that what does last is love - love that impacts life all around a person - an impact that can last from generation to generation. If you struggle with this, tell the person next to you so they can throw some cold water in your face, or some hot coffee in your lap! You need to awaken out of this slumber!

So, if love is so important, what is it? Isn't it simply an emotion?

There are four things I'd like you to know about love...

First, love is a command. And it came from Jesus. So, you're toast if you've been trying to weasel out of this one. If you call Jesus Lord, your Lord is giving you a clear directive: love.

Second, love is a choice. God doesn't force his love on anyone - he makes the choice our to embrace or walk away. Similarly, love is a choice that we have to make - it really doesn't come naturally. We are hard-wired to be self-serving. Love is other-centered. Love is a choice, and sometimes a difficult and even costly decision.

Third, love is a conduct. Love is too often understood as a feeling or emotion when in reality it is behavior - the way you live your life. A wife who tells her husband that she loves him yet is consistently rude to him, or treats him like dirt - is that love? A husband who tells his wife that he loves her yet can barely tear himself away from the bowl games to be with her, and when he does he isn't really there because his blue-tooth is feeding him scores - is this love?

Fourth, love is a commitment. Love isn't something that we decide to do depending on the weather. We are called to love when it feels good and is convenient, as well as when it requires the sacrifice of time and resources at inconvenient times. Jesus lived a life of love when thousands came to hear him and lift him up as their healer. And Jesus lived a life of love when thousands scorned him, spit on him, and lifted him up on a cross as their Savior. That's a commitment, not a feeling. Our culture needs a lesson on this one, wouldn't you agree?

As we move forward, I want to encourage your group to think about how you might show love to the larger community. I'm asking you as groups to think about this and work on this for the duration of this series - how can your group love the community outside the walls of CrossWalk Community Church?

Some questions to ponder...
  1. How have you struggled with Paul's five radical statements about love? Which one has been the toughest for you to swallow?
  2. Which of the four descriptors of love have been difficult? Why?
  3. How can you and your group show love to someone at CrossWalk? Who can you show appreciation toward?
  4. How can you show love to someone in your circle(s) of influence? Your neighbors, coworkers, friends, acquaintances, etc. Pick one of those persons and love them in some appropriate way.
  5. How can you and your group love the larger community? Think big -are there any God-sized things you all could rally around?

Note: As you begin this study, be sure to read the daily readings in the Better Together book - it will make a huge difference! Didn't get your copy? Swing by the church - copies are $5.

May you find yourself becoming increasingly and positively uncomfortable as you learn how to love and be loved over the next six weeks.